The best of writers and business owners undergo emotional roller coasters in their lives. Some are transparent. Others choose not to mix personal matters with business, which is Okay.
Writers and business owners use many outlets to use as downtime or leisure to get away from their routines. I refer to this as little RnR. You have those who prefer nature for quiet time and hikes. Then, there are those who love to dance DFW swingout style.
The story behind my DFW swingout dance start.
You see, DFW Swingout dance healed me from emotional trauma. Believe it or not, I have to give credit to God for using DFW dance as an emotional healer in my life.
My healings also came through professional Christian counseling, the counselor understanding my needs and suggestions to get out, meet new people and do something from my wishlist.
The video above shows my first starting moments with DFW Swingout dance. I’ve been dancing now for over three years. It is my go-to after long days and hours of writing, and working on internet marketing.
My beginnings before DFW Swingout dance
My initial move to Texas was bittersweet. I didn’t know anyone. No family, friends or sisterhood. I came here with the belief and knowing that God sent me. This new move had me high in the sky.
However, reality hit once I landed. God moved miraculously. Visited a friend three months before my transition, and my spirit leaped to make a move. Ended up landing a teaching position two months later.
So, I headed this way one month later. Many shifts occurred within three months of the summer of 2013. I felt elated to move.
Then reality settled after my help returned to their homes in another state. Living became hard because I was used to another community and had established relationships.
Not the case in Texas. This culture is territorial, especially women. Therapists and counselors in the tristate area confirm this knowledge. And, rightfully so because as professionals, they should know the area and psycho-analytics of the market.
Women of ages 25 and up have more of a difficult time connecting and developing relationships. Plus, by this age, your relationships are established from years of nurturing.
However, as you get older relationship statuses change, grow apart or end. It got harder for me living alone.
Many thoughts flooded my mind and consumed me. I entered seasons of weeping, which felt like forever. I needed healing from church wounds, toxic relationships, toxic people, erroneous teachings, oppressive doctrines and church circles that were headed around the same merry go round.
Healing is necessary for writers, too
I didn’t want to hide behind the scriptures any longer. You know, preaching to others for their healing, while I’m bleeding and dying on the inside. Sorry, I couldn’t bear certain types of “control” any longer.
I remember calling my spiritual mom and biological mom to confess that I wanted counseling to heal. Keep in mind, “there is safety in the multitude of counselors.” I couldn’t go to the ole’ church mothers, traditional apostles, and prophets.
My mind and soul needed a fresh and new perspective on life, God and me. It was in my best interest to go find my freedom.
By any means necessary, liberation was my goal because the burden began to consume my thoughts and behaviors. Prayer over the phone only helped, in part.
Talks with the same people assisted some but not enough. Since part of my personality includes to not project “my stuff” on people; therapy and dance were the best solutions. My counselor recognized and said, “because of the type of person you are, you’ll only need one session.”
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She instantly gathered from our talk that I am one to self-assess, focus on self-actualizing, and am self-aware. My counselor also noticed that I tell everything; my side your side; and the truth.
No need to lie to a therapist. If you do, remember you only receive counsel based on information and your experiences shared in the sessions.
During this one appointment, God used a space of 45 mins to shift my life for the better. Towards the session’s end, my counselor asked what something I’ve always wanted to do is.
“That two-step looking dance that looks appropriately sexy,” I uttered. We laughed.
And, in that moment of laughter, I experienced God’s miraculously healing power. He completed my healing to wholeness by the counselor giving me the address to the DFW swingout dance place.
The DFW Swingout dance community of love
I met a beautiful community. And, dance released an abundance of healing, uprooted many hurts along with their attached memories. Most importantly, I met my lovely husband right on this dance floor.
“Awe. Look at us.” He keeps me smiling and incredibly happy. My husband encourages my writing and to be an outstanding internet marketer to my clients and readers.
When you focus on self-healing, you can be your best self to others, your writings and business.
Who knew? It is necessary to heal properly in severely wounded areas to advance in your life.
To be successful also means for fractures to be made whole. To be married, one should work on self to prevent “stuff” and unnecessary “baggage” from entering the relationship.
God knew I didn’t want to bring such negatives to any new relationships, nor my business. Experts advise that one of many reasons small businesses fail in three to five years is due to the founder not dealing with his or her personal issues.
Anyway, I’m not your “traditional Christian.” I am an entrepreneur–a versatile writer and internet marketer who keeps faith and God at the forefront of my company and life.
Proud to say that there are beautiful areas to faith not mentioned in the average sermon, or church community. I am not angry. Not harboring unforgiveness–just a brand new faith-filled woman freed from religious dogmas.
And, better prepared as a writer to be “all-in” my writings and internet marketing.
Conclusion
Finally, DFW Swingout dance continues to be our go-to for relaxation, fun and good cardio! You are guaranteed to shed some pounds. Seriously! After writing thousands of words daily, researching markets and niches, and doing what internet marketers do, a little dance doesn’t hurt.
But, please don’t get me wrong. There are moments when I absolutely love quietness and meditating on the good, positive and loveliness of my experiences in God.
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